I didn't feel sick: I a 57 year old male, who like most have had nothing more than the common cold. Until I passed blood and I have had my life turned up side down and then some. I was told in late august of 2009 that I have HIGH GRADE UROTHELIAL CARCINOMA ( GRADE 3 OF 3) INVADING CONECTIVE TISSUE. I have gotten a second opinion and the news was worse. The cancer is into the tissue outside of the bladder. I have talked to an oncology Dr. and I just get more confused. I have one last appt with the urology group early sept. I feel that with the spread and high degree of cancer , that my best out come is to have the operation. Yes I'm scared, but after reading alot of your comments I have a better understanding of what to expect. Thank ya'll so much.