Not sure where to start or what I really want to say , so as they say begin at start of what is now my husbands story . My husband is 46 and was first diagnosed with bladder cancer in March of this year. We then had his bladder removed  on April 18th where the doctor removed 18 lymph nodes with no sign of mets. When we first got home he complained that his back hurt but blamed it on the new way he was sleeping. Finally in July he went to see his urologist for a check because of the pain. I should tell you my husband just turned 46 July 15th . So on July 19th we were told that his cancer had mets to his ribs and his liver , He has chosen not to try any treatment and he is recieving hospice care and it seems to be going fast , he is sleeping alot , shaking alot ,he can  not keep his thoughts straight and it is hard to see the man I have been with and loved for the past 26 years. It is hard on his two sons and his 71 year old father. Would I change his choice of no treatment , no I do not think so. We came home three months , (well now 4)ago with hope and ready to live out our second chance of life. Not sure it is all the way in my mind yet but the reality has to come soon, will I be ready ? Do I have a Choice?

Thanks for just letting me get it out and hopefully will help someone else.